Darknessalwayscometous - Fara's

okay that's so f deep

"أحيانًا يبكي كل شيء فيك ، ما عدا عينيك".

"Sometimes everything cries in you, except your eyes. "

if we should protect children because they are vunerable, this means you would protect cruel children who bullies people who different than them then. the children who responsible to trauma for someone else's entire years

You're assuming that "protecting" children is the same as absolving them of responsibility and that's not what I said. All children are vulnerable, because all children are children; they don't come out of the womb with a perfectly working moral compass anymore than they come out of it waiting to hurt people--they're vulnerable because their understanding of the world is entirely at the mercy of what we, as adults, consistently tell them and show them. Children behaving cruelly aren't exempt from that--they learn that cruelty from somewhere, or someone. Your job, as the adult, is to make sure they understand that it's unacceptable so it will not happen again--but your job is also to ask why someone that young is behaving this way to begin with, so you can ensure they become better.

"Protecting" kids is not ignoring when they hurt or torment others, it's not refusing to teach them consequences or right from wrong, it's not "zero tolerance" policies in schools that treat a child being bullied and the child bullying them as equal instigators, and it's certainly not protecting them from recognizing, and atoning for, the pain they have caused someone else. You don't have to make peace with the now-adults who hurt you when you both were kids, but you cannot let the horrors of your own childhood impact how you treat or respond to the children living theirs around you right now, either.

You don't protect kids so they can get a free pass for bullying or tormenting another child. You protect them because kids are impulsive, emotionally reactive, and profoundly social (which means deeply impressionable) human beings who are still learning & processing insane amounts of information every day about what it means to be alive, to be alive as yourself, to be alive as yourself with other people. Protecting them is realising that you can't isolate the responsibility of a 10 year old from the bigger responsibility of the literal grown adults around them, adults who are in charge of teaching them about the world and how to behave in it. Whether you have children of your own in the future or not is completely irrelevant to this; we all become those adults eventually--no matter what happened to us as kids.

Stuff No One Told Me

Hannibal: If I promised you to go vegetarian from today on, would you promise me in return never to keep your feelings towards me under lock and key again?

Clarice: Feelings that you only imagine, Dr. Lecter...

Hannibal: Feelings you haven't been able to explain since we first met. Let me explain. Your voice changes when you speak to me, Clarice. It becomes rough and deep with desire, your breathing is faster than usual. An inexperienced psychologist like Chilton would say it's pure fear. I know better. You want me here and now. Just a promise. A word that stands between us.

Clarice: Allright. Promise.

Vincent van Gogh, Ever Yours: The Essential Letters

‘Starling had the psychology background- Mapp’s was law- yet it was Mapp who knew that the washing machine’s rhythm was like a great heartbeat and the rush of its waters was what the unborn hear- our last memory of peace’ -Thomas Harris, The Silence of the Lambs

Final post of the year! :) I’ve always loved the imagery of Starling using the laundry room as a safe space to sit and think. I posted this on my instagram too (same @) with some more details <3

The secret joke in Silence of the Lambs

“I ate his liver with some fava beans and a nice chianti.” Great line from Silence of the Lambs everyone knows. But most people don’t realise Dr Hannibal Lecter is making a medical joke. Lecter could be treated with drugs called monoamine oxidase inhibitors - MAOIs. As a psychiatrist, Lecter knows this. The three things you can’t eat with MAOIs? Liver, beans, wine. Lecter is a) cracking a joke for his own amusement, and b) saying he’s not taking his meds.

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hot evil characters who i want to fix but will make me cry if i actually meet them in real life>>>>>>

not enough aang and gyatso out there...