“Every habit produces multiple outcomes across time. Unfortunately, these outcomes are often misaligned. With our bad habits, the immediate outcome usually feels good, but the ultimate outcome feels bad. With good habits, it is the reverse: the immediate outcome is unenjoyable, but the ultimate outcome feels good. […] The road less traveled is the road of delayed gratification. If you’re willing to wait for the rewards, you’ll face less competition and often get a bigger payoff. As the saying goes, the last mile is always the least crowded.”
— James Clear, Atomic Habits
Credit:
https://medium.com/@thenib/you-can-be-a-patriot-without-loving-america-afe4a08e2eaf
Today at my school we had an assembly about internet predators and when I had said that most of my true friends are over the internet and they gave me a lecture about how “I don’t know who I’m talking to” blah blah. So please, if you aren’t a predator in any way, please reblog so i can prove a point.
We can't get rid of slavery, the economy will collapse!
We can't get rid of child labor, the economy will collapse!
We can't have 8 hour work days, the economy will collapse.
What? The workers want TWO days off a week? Don't they know the economy will collapse?
there’s a popular post on tumblr that says INTJs have two “modes”: one that has no qualms using social masks to achieve goals and one that doesn’t see a reason to be anything but honest.
1. how does having a social mask that goes against their true values affect low Fi types?
2. these “modes” are present for all types, aren’t they?
Sounds like “This INTJ is an Enneagram 3″ vs “every other INTJ.” ;)
Healthy TJs typically have strong beliefs based in a few areas (things of personal importance to them that they work hard toward) but high Te knows you get more flies with honey than vinegar. To succeed in business, for example, being likable, presenting oneself as competent, and proving self worth through reliability and the ability to work with people is how you earn their respect and cooperation. That is earnest, sincere, pragmatic, and not a “mask.”
3s on the other hand can “adapt” to be whatever the situation requires of them – for example, keeping their mouth shut on something when they know to bring it up in their current group would cause unnecessary friction and prevent them from accomplishing a goal, or that it might prevent them from GETTING the job they want. (IE, not supporting 100% everything a business, individual, church, group, etc represents, but being able to “appear” in such a form that they assume you are “one of them” without being one of them.) But even 3-core INTJs do have something they believe in and are working toward.
So… yeah, on this issue I’d say 3-core/fixed vs. not-3-core/fixed (non-adaptable) is the factor. And yeah, the same goes for every other type.
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RB if your blog is a safe, accepting space for asexuals!
Abled gays celebrating marriage equality: well we sure do have nowhere to go from here when it comes to marriage rights. Gay rights!
Me, a disabled lesbian trying to get on ssi thinking about how I will not be able to marry my girlfriend if I do because I can't have more than $2000 to my name at a time and they count a spouse's income towards that: wow .. gay rights ...
when it comes to consciousness raising you can spend time telling someone “crazy” is a slur or you can spend time explaining that what looks like “care” or “cure” or “mercy” to them is actually eugenics or abuse. one of these projects has to precede the other and i bet you can guess which one i would prioritize
Can you do a type contrast between ISFJ and ISTP using characters as an example? I figure the two types would be quite different.
They use Fe quite differently, as you might imagine.
Think about Prim and Haymitch from The Hunger Games.
As a high Fe / feeler, Prim genuinely cares about people and their needs and their emotional state. She is more effective than her sister at figuring out people’s emotional motives and helping them through them, and has chosen a profession for herself which enables her to directly assist people in a tangible way. She is quiet, thoughtful, insightful, and hard-working, with a tender heart. She loves all creatures, even her mangy old cat. Prim excels in one specific thing (medicine) and has become very good at it through repeated usage of / interest in it (Si finding a favorite niche, unique to themselves).
Haymitch approaches Fe in an analytical, detached way -- he uses it purely to gain sponsorships and ensure his own and Katniss’ survival, reminding her she must be ‘likable’ in order to gain sympathy from the audience. This illustrates the difference between the genuine concern of high Fe and using it to an advantage, to support a logical conclusion (she needs sponsors, they must learn to like her, ergo -- be flattering and appealing to get what you want -- something Katniss as an ISTJ doesn’t understand, because to her, it’s insincere). He did whatever he had to in the arena to survive, he has no specific way he approaches life (winging it and thinking the kids will have no choice but to do so, in the arena), and he longs for freedom from constraints. He’s opportunistic (Se) not studied (Si).
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Take good care of yourself so you can care for others as well.
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