Inspired By This Post (specifically @flying-butter's Comment)

Dan in “Eve of the Daleks”

The way people hate on Feyre and Rhys for not having infinitely amounts of patience and empathy with Nesta is outstanding. 

For starters  Feyre has had patience with Nesta and it is only human that it eventually runs out, she is indeed empathetic for what Nesta is going through, but she is allowed to feel tired of the situation and is allowed to sometimes feel resentment towards the way she was treated by her. ACOFAS could be read as the last attempts of Feyre to draw her sister out and help her, she only knows the tools that work for her (being with the Inner Circle, having some purpose and regaining understanding of her body, for instance) and if they don’t work for Nesta that’s fine, but you can’t expect someone who is not trained to deal with trauma, as a fae psychologist or someone of the sorts would be, to be all equipped to deal with Nesta’s situation. Offering her money to come to the celebration is nothing if not desperate and it came from a place of worry. Was it the best strategy? no, not really, but people should stop crucifying Feyre for doing so. 

Also, please stop saying that Nesta treated Feyre like she did pre-ACOTAR, during ACOTAR (safe for their brief reunion) and during certain scenes in ACOMAF, because she is dealing with unresolved trauma of their poverty and neglect from their father… as if dealing with trauma gives you a free pass to treat people badly and it’s okay because “you’re dealing with stuff”. While trauma and her mental health do need to be taken into account when analyzing her and how she relates to people, it cannot be taken as the almighty shield and sword with which people defend her and then blame others for not having infinite amounts of patience. 

As for Rhys, there is no denying that the way he deals with Nesta is vastly different from the way he treated Feyre when she was dealing with her trauma, and again is an ocean of difference with his treatment of Elain. He says that he will not forgive someone who actively hurt Feyre, which is his explanation for his behavior towards the eldest Archeron. Now, you can love, admire, respect, value Nesta all you want, but she while Elain also neglected Feyre, Nesta not only neglected Feyre but was verbally abusive to her for years. That difference matters to Rhys from what we see. 

Rhys is a character that you can consider feminist, but is he a new wave of feminist that is a breakthrough in the movement and offers new political ideas and pushes feminism in new directions? no. Even Feyre says so herself in ACOMAF, he offers her what any decent human would offer any other person who they see as their equal, as we all should see everybody,  and she was just starved for that sort of respect. It was the fandom that propelled his character to new levels as the #BiggestFemnist to ever exist, so now when he is not “feminist” towards Nesta everyone just sends him to the pits of hell. When Rhys helped Feyre it was not for the sake of #Feminism it was because he cared for her. Feminism is not about liking every single woman just because of their sex. He could make more of an effort in getting to know Nesta and having patience, but it should be done from a place of trying to be more empathetic, not because it’s hist obligation as a #Feminist.

On this note, I’d like to point you to some tags @rhysand-vs-fenrys​ added on a post that I believe speak volumes and gave me life:

Finally they argue that he did “not treat Nesta like he treated Feyre”… as if.. you know they are forgetting the tiny insignificant, minuscule detail, like seriously small tiny, that Feyre is umm his mate. The dynamics of their relationship are, I dare say, quite different from the ones he might have with his sister in law. 

And no, this is not ant Anti Nesta post. 

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

After travelling to the farthest corners of the map to locate old masters of sorcery for her, saving her from the Witchbane Ruins, finding her a new body and killing a good man when faced with the choice of either siding with him or protecting her, and her telling you afterward that when all this is over, she will always be there and welcome you with open arms, basically saying the Academy will be your second home once you become Lord, Sellen really has the audacity to turn into a ball.

Things said in my college class as Ghost quotes

“You young ones and your fancy music”-Nihil

“Why can I smell burning. OH SHIT ITS ME”-Dew

“Do NOT decapitate Jesus under any circumstance”-Sister Imperator

“Rodents aren’t misunderstood, people are just wrong.”-Copia

“I’d hit mick jagger with my car, but I can’t drive”-Terzo

“They are growing Brussel sprouts in the rooftop garden, DISGUSTING”-Secondo

*on the floor sobbing*“IM GOING TO COMMIT WAR CRIMES”-Aether

“I’m a Jack of all trades and a master of…maybe like three?”-Swiss

“I may be gay but I do have standards, low ones, but standards none the less”-Cirrus

“I need a cup of tea before I launch my window out a window…Wait???”-Rain

“I’m wearing shoes and it’s the governments fault”-Mountain

♠️these boys ace!♠️

I love getting on pinterest and experiencing lots of gendery envy.

I'm sentimental, so take this because I know there's at least one person who needs to hear it

You deserve to be happy and if Ghost is your family, that's nothing to be ashamed of.

Crying over the fact Popia might be killed off and then feeling guilty because it's a stage character? Me too, it's perfectly normal to get attached to them

Still sad about Primo, Secondo, or Terzo? That's also valid.

Didn't get to go to that ritual and ended up upset? I'm so sorry you weren't able to see them, I promise you one day they'll come to you and nothing will hold you back from going when they do

Ghost is family. And so are the ghesties. And even Tobias knows how much it means to everyone and I promise he loves all of you. Whether you just found the band or if you've been to every meet n greet possible.

All the Ghouls and Ghoulettes love you too and they wanna see you succeed in all your endeavors and push through the times it seems everything is against you

Does this make any sense? Is it coherent? Probably not. But hopefully it makes someone feel a little bit better when it's a bit of a turbulent time

Eyewitnesses claim they are capable of things other than cruelty and destruction. The discovery had experts shitting themselves.

The writing on the Adventures of Merlin astounds me constantly. Like. A goblin possesses Gaius and licks gold. Fart jokes are treated as relevant comedy. We’re supposed to believe that no one sees Merlin do magic in broad daylight, everyday, when we literally see his eyes flash and a sound effect plays. But then.

But then Uther dies on Arthur’s birthday.

You might not get it yet. You might not know why that’s insane. I’ll tell you. The significance of that event is that Igraine died in childbirth. Arthur’s birthday is already a reminder of his dead mother. A woman who died for his birth. And now his father dies, signifying Arthur’s ascent to King.

A rebirth. Once again forged in the blood of his kin, Arthur Pendragon is borne of death.

A day that has forever been bloodied is now drowning in red, and it has been and will always be treated as a celebration.

What were they on???? That they could waffle between some of the cringiest takes I’ve ever seen, and some of the most poignant symbols in modern storytelling. I simply don’t understand.