THIS!!! I Truly Do Not Understand How My Post Was Seen As Out Of Touch Or Irrational. How Is Loving Yourself

The prettier, smarter, talented, put together, well groomed you are, the smaller your dating pool gets. Majority of the time, you’ll get approached by absolute dodos who think they’re in your league but they fail to do so. And you go for these men because they make you laugh or whatever. Then these kind of dodos get even more ridiculously confident because a pretty 10/10 girl thinks they’re the shit. And then they start acting up. 

Very rarely will you come across a man who is intellectually competent and on the same level/ greater level as you. However, you might push this one away because he may not fit the bill with other things, often superficial.

Date men that are only a part of your intellectual and emotional intelligence league or greater. Never, ever date down. If he’s not wealthy but has the potential to be - and is actively putting in that work - then consider him. 

This morning, my therapist shared this really useful hack and I feel like it could be useful to share: it is the pie chart method.

Essentially, it is a great tool to identify the behaviours, situations and events that caused a certain effect, in order for you to truly understand what really happened.

You simply draw a circle, identify the circumstances that caused the outcome and give each situation a percentage of its influence on the outcome.

For example: you bake a cake but it turns out horribly. It could be that 45% of the fault could be given to the oven that has malfunctioned, 30% to the wrongly calculated measurements of the ingredients, and 25% of your inexperience baking a cake. In the end, you will realise that it may not be your fault, and therefore you should stop being so angry at yourself.

Disclaimer: sometimes the fault could be given to you. This is a useful method for those of you who may constantly be harsh to yourselves.

“The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.”

— Dalai Lama

We literally don't own anyone any explanation for whatever reasons it is

Sorry babe but you do owe certain people explanations and common decency and accountability. This is very context dependent, but why do you want (or how do you think you can sustain) friends if you think you owe nobody anything?? It doesn’t compute sorry

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Babe, you don’t have to start at 5 AM after Pilates, at 8.30 after a matcha, or at 10.30 after the gym.

You can start at 7.16 at home, at 15,34 after a long nap, at 19.46 after an afternoon of doom scrolling, at 9.21 before a boring lecture in an ugly building and so on. The only thing that matters is that you start.

Cultivate some fucking discipline.

Some people can ignore their obligations for weeks, but not you. Some people let opportunity pass for lack of trying, but not you. Some people are content to wade through confusion and disorganization to finish every minor task, but not you. Some people are ok with wasting their precious time on endless distractions, but not you. Some people don't address their issues, but not you. You give a damn. You want to fucking do better.

That's what makes you different.

u really do have to forgive yourself

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