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Everytime I see Snape posts that include Rickman's face I get the urge to cry and throw up.

Severus Snape and Sirius Black are narrative mirrors, mainly for their shared grief for a lost loved one but also for how they both projected their relationship with James onto Harry.

Sirius saw James in Harry. He wished James was in Harry and the main reason he protected and loved Harry was because of his devotion and grief for James. He did love Harry regardless, but he still connected James to Harry significantly to a point he didn’t recognize Harry as his own person.

Severus saw James in Harry. He convinced himself James is in Harry, because he hated seeing Lily in Harry. He hated looking into those eyes, so he kept himself in denial, because that's how he coped.

Sirius isn't a manchild that only saw Harry as James. But there is a character in canon that is like that, and that character is Snape.

Their relationship deteriorated because it was full of miscommunication. They just had these expectations and views of each other that were never fulfilled, I suppose. They couldn’t understand each other, and that was the main problem. Snape probably idealized Lily, while Lily didn’t understand Snape, so she couldn’t see why he kept hurting her in her eyes. They loved the idea of having a best friend, but I don’t think they ever truly knew each other. What kept Lily coming back was nostalgia, safety, and probably shared interests.

I absolutely hate the whole 'snape loved lily' plot twist. People often equate it to the way Sirius still loved and missed james years after his death and went to insane lengths to protect his son, but tht was so not the case with snily.

Coz snape and lily had such a toxic, imperfect relationship in canon, but instead of treating it tht way it was never addressed. It wud hv been so interesting to explore this, but the series just doesn't.

Both of them r awful friends to each other. Snape's faults r obviously pretty clear (aiming to join a terrorist group tht believes ppl lyk his friend shouldn't be alive...yea tht doesn't need to be mentioned twice lol). Don't get me wrong, lily was completely right to cut Snape off, but it wasn't lyk she was a good friend even before tht. Can u ever imagine Ron or Hermione almost smiling if Draco was exposing Harry's underpants to a crowd of jeering students? Nope. They wud throw hands, period. Can u imagine any of the marauders doing tht to each other? (their internal dynamics might not be the healthiest but they wudnt stand for it if an outsider bullied their friends). Absolutely not. Coz it's not about these characters, it's just... not how u react when ur 'friend' is getting tormented (or anyone else for tht matter, but friend in this context specifically). Also can u imagine Ron or Hermione relying on school rumours saying tht Draco saved Harry's life without asking Harry about his version of the event first? Nope. Can u see what I'm getting at here?

Lily wasn't even a good friend to Snape to begin with, but he loved her until the end (irrespective of whether u want to see it as romantic or platonic). Now, I cud buy the narrative tht lily was the only person who was ever kind to him and thts y he clung on to her, but thts not how canon sees it. The source material doesn't address the nuances of this relationship in any meaningful way other than 'snape loved lily and tht is y he switched sides'.

Which is y the reason he switches sides, and his continued love for lily until he dies at 38 seems sort of shallow to me. Coz it wud be different if he'd hurt someone who truly loved him, but thts clearly not the case (u cud say tht lily loved him and did wrong by him too but tht isn't canon, given tht canon doesn't think she ever wronged him to begin with). Just feels lyk he was gaslit by the author tbh

Sometimes people don’t realize they experienced abuse but the effect from it is the same.

I don’t think Severus knows what James did to him was technically SA, and even if someone told him, his pride and shame would not let him accept it.

I didn’t know that the guy I dated when I was 21 was gaslighting me and psychologically abusing me either, or that because of him, I had spiraled into severe depression. But thanks to my therapist, I realized that he was—and that doesn’t change the fact that I went through psychological abuse.

Omg yes

I may or may not have spent a lot of time scrolling through your incredible blog yesterday 🫣

You are incredibly talented and I’ve loved reading your hot (intellectual) takes😍🤓

I know you’ve mentioned you’re not a fan of Dramione, what are your thoughts on Lucius/Hermione?

I was a skeptic until I read ABitofWits writing which is *chefs kiss*

thank you very much for the asks, anons!

perversely, i am compelled to back this because lucius is so transparently a wife guy.

the problem i have with many of hermione's non-ron pairings is that they tend to assume that what she's looking for is a man who's smooth and sophisticated and ambitious [which is why ron is usually - in such stories - turned into a boor with sawdust rattling around in his head] and which turn her into someone who's similarly polished and perfect in turn.

whereas what she clearly wants is to be able to be herself [annoying] around a man who uncomplicatedly adores her.

she and narcissa are very different people - obviously - but since lucius is arthur weasley's narrative mirror and ron is very like his father [aka: a stone cold legend who is devoted to his missus and clearly fucks like a champ] we can assume that he has many of the same traits which canonically attract hermione to ron.

[and narcissa's clearly not only spiralling in half-blood prince because she's worried about her son but because she's suffering withdrawal symptoms...]

hermione's having the time of her life, lucius is prepared to throw hands if anyone dares to point out that his new girlfriend is a nightmare at parties because she simply has to have the last word all the time, and draco is sitting on his bed staring into the middle distance and wishing - for the first time in years - that voldemort was alive.

hot!

There’s plenty of evidence to suggest that Lily wasn’t a feminist and, at most, had a basic understanding and practice of it, limited to choice feminism and girl-bossing. While that isn’t real feminism, it was probably the norm in the 70s.

But her life choices make it clear that she wasn’t a feminist icon and was perfectly content with following patriarchal traditions and taking part in patriarchal dynamics. It seems far more likely that she wasn’t a feminist than that she was.

So when I see someone saying she was a feminist, I just roll my eyes and scroll, because the idea seems pretty laughable to me.

The post: You can’t say Lily Evans was a feminist because a person with feminist awareness wouldn’t marry a privileged cishet man who abused his power by being a bully right in front of her.

The Snaters: LILY WAS FREE TO CHOOSE JAMES, DID YOU EXPECT HER TO CHOOSE SNAPE?

Me: At what point did I say she had to choose someone? At what point did I say I ship her with Snape? At what point does questioning a character’s political mindset turn into reducing her to an object of desire between two men?

Of course Lily was free to marry whoever she wanted; I have no problem with that. My issue is with people trying to portray her as some kind of feminist icon of the 70s when there is nothing in the canon to suggest that, and when that theory is contradicted by her life choices. A feminist woman from the 70s wouldn’t marry the class’s rich bully, wouldn’t end up with a hyper-toxic white guy who spent his time abusing classmates, wouldn’t end up with a spoiled and obnoxious brat who publicly stripped a working-class classmate against his will. And this has nothing to do with whether Lily should have ended up with someone else. Lily should end up with whoever she wants—no one is debating that. What’s being debated is the attempt to portray her as a feminist icon when she simply wasn’t.

Lily was a white girl from the 70s who was completely alienated from the patriarchal structures of her time, only cared about social issues that directly affected her, and chose a traditional life that was entirely in line with the patriarchal expectations for women of her era. She was not a revolutionary, she was not a feminist—she was a teenage mother who married her high school boyfriend, who happened to be a rich jerk. And saying that does not imply in any way that she should have chosen another man. The fact that Snaters are so obsessed with this just proves that all their so-called progressive rhetoric online is pure performance, because anyone with even a minimal understanding of the subject would never assume that criticizing a female character’s political stance means she has to pick one man over another.

Honestly, what a drag. But what’s even more exhausting is how all these people attack not only by twisting your words and making completely irrelevant statements but also by trying to argue their points with nothing but fan theories and assumptions based on their own biases or whatever fandom content they consume as if it were gospel. And the moment you counter them with canon-based arguments, suddenly, they decide the conversation is over and that they’re going to "leave it at that." Because, of course, the moment canon gets thrown in their faces, it turns out they have no ground to stand on, and their arguments are invalid because they’re built on nothing but the pillars of their imagination—so they have to retreat to avoid embarrassing themselves further.

I’ve said it over and over: I don’t care if people come to throw hate my way, and I don’t care if people come to debate. But if they do, at least have the guts and the dignity not to run away with their tails between their legs when I completely dismantle their cheap hate-filled discourse—because, honestly, it’s as embarrassing as it is disappointing.

Comes from people who don't engage with fanon, so they think of canon James and Regulus and cannot comprehend why or how it became so popular.

The funniest thing about jegulus haters is that they are SO opposed to a completely average ship. like... it's an age-appropriate queer rivals to lovers/best friend's brother, and you're hating on that?

Why don't you go bother snily shippers if you mind the death eater/order member trope? Why don't you go bother james/severus shippers for taking away from jily? Why don't you go hate on Tom/anyone fic for being toxic or ooc? (I do not condone hate on any ship, I am pointing out the principle!!)

As someone who plays around with weird (generally problematic) ships and tropes, I've never got a mean comment, but Jegulus riles you up?

I'm starting to get really interested in exploring the depths and realms of a sub Voldemort...

"I love a man who acts like a woman and is prettier than me" "Lol date a woman then" STFUUUUUUU

i actually never ever want AO3 to be censored bc nothing is more fun than reading the tags on a fic and going “huh. didn’t know there was a market for that.”