I Hate Being On My Period Bc I'm Sad And Lonely And All I Want Rn Is To Be Held But I Have No One :')

Intersex infographic, just to clear up some common misconceptions.

Only intersex people may add info in reblogs, perisex people learn to listen.

Edit since this has gotten traction : If this infographic has taught you something or you've found if useful, consider donating to a disabled intersex person so I can afford medication and food

My Ko-fi (anything helps but no obligation)

Art about transformation I think

seeing femmes who hate butches is so hilarious to me because you cannot call yourself a femme if you do not like butches. that’s not how it works. you can absolutely be femme4femme or not want to date butches but i’m talking about femmes who just don’t like butches AT ALL. in ANY way. one of the points of being a femme is protecting all other lesbians, ESPECIALLY butches!! and vice versa for butches protecting femmes!! we rely on each other and always have!! historically!! and more importantly–how can anyone hate butches???? truly baffling.

idk if ur okay with vent, feel free to ignore if you're not

i'm kinda frustrated. i was venting to a white friend about racism, and ever since i did, she pulled away from me. she stated the reason is she feels bad bc she thinks she's complicit by virtue of not being black and benefiting from white privilege, and thus she thinks i deserve better friend than her.

i was just venting. she herself is not racist. the white guilt feels so unnecessary and it hurts that instead of just being there for me, she let her white guilt pull her away from me. it's so excessive. like i guess i get the guilt if it's about her also having unlearned antiblackness and feeling bad for those unlearned stuff, but it's not that. it's purely because she's white that she feels guilty

I was gone delete this because Black, but I think everyone needs this example. I want you to hear me:

Your friend is being racist to you.

Your friend might not MEAN to be, she may be well intentioned. But she is. You went to her to vent about your experiences with racism, believing her to be a safe ear. While I can understand that she is uncomfortable, rather than just being honest and saying "hey I'm uncomfortable with this topic and I don't know how to deal with that", she has decided to center her feelings about your experiences with racism. That helps no one, in fact it redirects the weight of the conversation. She just feels bad, and you're still experiencing racism. These two things are not the same.

Now. If it were ME, I wouldn't want to be this person's friend anymore. I need the people close to me to be on the same page; I can't lean on you if I gotta coddle you about oppressing me 😭. If I came to you to tell you I'm struggling with racism, and you made it about your white guilt, I'm not telling you shit else 😅 I see EXACTLY where the line has fallen, the limit of this relationship. But that's me! 🙌🏾

That said! If you want to mend this relationship and put it on a better path, I think you should tell her how you feel.

"If you want me to feel supported, if you want to feel like an active ally and actually do something to counter that guilt over your privilege, here are things you can do." The PDF is in one of my lessons (3, I believe) but I always recommend White Fragility by Robin diAngelo as baby's first confrontation with white guilt. Maybe hand that to her? Because she's not as "unlearned" as y'all think if this is her response. And if she don't take it, well... Balls in her court! You did what you were gone do.

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.

Lastly, as a reminder, we gotta rise above "see there's a Black character!" as a judgment of a piece of media's inclusiveness. Okay, but did they play a role that had interiority or did they just serve as a device for the nonblack main characters and their stories?

I don't believe in giving credit for the bare minimum of "being present" anymore lol. It's okay to have standards, it's okay that everything you like won't reach them, but you don't have to lower your standards for good Black characters to "just having them"!

Just wanted y'all to have that last paragraph from my review as its own post 👍🏾

Walt Disney Studios has a history heavily ingrained in racism and violence against Black people. Mickey Mouse is a furry minstrel OC.

The divisiveness between trans people is so fucking manufactured, stop falling for it.

“Dykes and Their Cars” by Chloe Sherman

I hate that we are expected to compact our opinions, our feelings, our identities, into square, black and white little boxes and then label them and let that label decide who we are and how we’re treated by others. Humans, by nature, are so much more complicated than that, we aren’t perfect squares and so we can’t fit into the square boxes that our society so desperately tries to force us into. We’re more like squiggly lines that are all tangled and intertwined and going in every direction imaginable, like christmas lights after spending a year in the loft; they may all somehow be connected, but when you try to describe or make sense of it, it’s going to be hard and, a lot of the time, it will even be impossible. Human behaviour, emotions, and identity can’t be labelled perfectly, there’s always going to be a part that’s missing or something that doesn’t quite fit into the box. Think of it like trying to fit a trapezoid into a rectangle: there’s parts that are too big to fit, and then there’s areas that the trapezoid can’t fill at all. That is what labels are to humans. No matter how hard you try, you will not be able to perfectly fit somebody into a label without changing a vital part of what makes them who they are and that can cause so much emotional and mental damage.