Important! Let’s Help Tyler!

This is making me a smiling, giggling goof😁❤❤

my adhd frustrates me a whole lot, don’t get me wrong. but there’s something about being able to think at 2000mph that just makes me more POWERFUL THAN YOU,  PEASANTS

people who don’t have adhd: we all are a little adhd!!

me: well do you have the debilitating symptoms of RSD that make you feel like a failure 24/7 and that everyone you love hates you?? Do you have sensory issues that make it difficult to function without getting irritated at the smallest things?? or extreme impulsiveness that can destroy relationships and even endanger you at times???? or do you develop maladaptive coping skills that can further destroy your mental state?????? 

them: no?

me: THEN YOU DON’T HAVE FUCKING ADHD!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUCK OFF 

My brother has returned, the world may be a kinder place then once believed.

Started watching one piece but I was watching it with my brother because i am incapable of watching shows by myself and now I fear he will be leaving me to watch by himself so basically all hope is lost

then you never really knew me at all

Mmmmmm so true

adhd theatre productions presents: ‘Logic’

STARRING: Good Instincts!

and their nemesis: Asshole ADHD Galaxy Brain

-Let the play begin-

[OPENING SCENE]

Parent: You knew I didn’t want you to do that! Why did you do it anyway?

Me, put on the spot: uh - well, um …

Parent: what were you *thinking*?

Me, trying to sort out the thoughts of Past!Me: hmm …

—FLASHBACK—

Past Me, presented with solutions a, b, and c to handle a minor dilemma, and under a time crunch because of procrastination: i dont’ like any of these options.

My Good Instincts, zooming up & dodging past my executive dysfunction: Option B is the best one.

Me, easily persuaded: thanks, Good Instincts! I agree.

ADHD Galaxy Brain, arriving dramatically, 15 minutes late with Starbucks: but is it really the best option?

Me, instantly distracted: is it?

ADHD Galaxy Brain, an asshole: What about option D?

Good Instincts: *quickly* option d wasn’t up for consideration in the f–

ADHD Galaxy Brain: *bats Good Instincts into the sun*

ADHD Galaxy Brain: *to Me* well?

Me: I hadn’t considered option D! but I can’t remember why I didn’t consider it.

ADHD Galaxy Brain: Neither can I!

ADHD Galaxy Brain: but here, have 32 reasons why option D is definitely the best one. It took 2.8 seconds for me to come up with them, so you better appreciate it.

Me, mistaking this for critical reasoning: wow, those are all really good reasons! This is why people say you should carefully consider your options before acting.

Good Instincts: *yelling from the sun’s surface, but too far away to be understood*

Me, a fool: welp, you’ve convinced me. Option D is definitely the best one. But I feel like my instincts are trying to tell me something?

ADHD Galaxy Brain: could be. but do we really have time to check? besides, if we undo all this critical reasoning, we’ll have to start all over again, and I hate doing things twice.

Me, a person who struggles to do things even once: yeah, that sounds boring.

Me, satisfied: Option D it is! sorry, Instincts, but the feeling of foreboding your indistinct yelling gives me requires too much time&effort to understand!

—

Good Instincts, watching from the surface of the Sun as I execute option D: i SAID, your PARENTS will be ANGRY if you go with Option D!!

Good Instincts: THAT’S WHY IT WASN’T ON THE TABLE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!

Good Instincts: AAAAAAAAAA WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS

–END FLASHBACK–

Present Me, struggling to put words to this: …

Parent, out of patience: well????

Me: I—

Me:

Me: …

Me: i don’t know.

—FADE TO BLACK—

NARRATOR VOICEOVER, grave: the truth is, they *did* know. They remembered it all with remarkable clarity, considering how quickly their decision was made.

NARRATOR VOICEOVER: but they also knew from previous experience … that they would never have the words to explain it.

-The End-

EMERGENCY ANNOUNCEMENT!

Attention JSE community!

A member of our community has gone missing! Her parents reported her missing!

If you live anywhere in Scotland, please be on the look out for this girl! Her name is Becca!

Please spread the word and help find her!

Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

Thank this person so much for making this post. You have my love❤❤❤

I feel like people with RSD deserve to feel a little bit brave for simply deciding again and again to try to form relationships and friendships and choosing to participate in their communities. Like, if every day you run the risk of feeling like you just got punched in the chest because somebody looked at you askance and you still decide to get out of bed and interact with people you’re doing well and being brave in a way few people will ever understand.

Why are this things not mentioned until WE find them. Why. What.

when you find yet another documented-but-rarely-discussed facet of your disorder and realize there’s a reason that you’re such a bitch

Max’s scream gives me life.