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we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

Reductress really taking no prisoners today

That’s absolutely true that men know what they’re doing, I think most rapists know exactly what they’re doing, but not all of them. Some rapists actually do think it’s okay; marital rape, corrective rape, or they have deluded themselves into believing that their victim wants it.

This isn’t justifying anything, and I know it’s very clear in my post that I am saying that these situations are still rape.

The biggest danger in rape culture is that there are so many rapists who don’t think that they’re rapists. “It wasn’t rape, she was making out with me earlier, it doesn’t matter that she’s drunk now.” “It wasn’t rape, I asked if I could kiss her and she said sure, what did she think would happen next?” “It’s not rape, she’s my wife.” “It’s not rape, he’s gay, he should thank me.” “It’s not rape, I told her she could either have sex with me or I would kill myself.” Rape awareness and consent education are crucial, because many many men casually commit sexual assault and don’t realize or won’t admit it because the culture has told them it’s okay, it’s normal, it’s just what guys do. There are rapists that are in denial about what they’ve done because they think they’re good people who would never hurt someone like that, they aren’t a rapist. ‘Not physically fighting back’ isn’t consent. ‘Not screaming and crying’ isn’t consent. ‘Not calling the police afterwards’ isn’t consent.

The biggest danger in rape culture is that there are so many rapists who don’t think that they’re rapists. “It wasn’t rape, she was making out with me earlier, it doesn’t matter that she’s drunk now.” “It wasn’t rape, I asked if I could kiss her and she said sure, what did she think would happen next?” “It’s not rape, she’s my wife.” “It’s not rape, he’s gay, he should thank me.” “It’s not rape, I told her she could either have sex with me or I would kill myself.” Rape awareness and consent education are crucial, because many many men casually commit sexual assault and don’t realize or won’t admit it because the culture has told them it’s okay, it’s normal, it’s just what guys do. There are rapists that are in denial about what they’ve done because they think they’re good people who would never hurt someone like that, they aren’t a rapist. ‘Not physically fighting back’ isn’t consent. ‘Not screaming and crying’ isn’t consent. ‘Not calling the police afterwards’ isn’t consent.

people often talk about "transfem hypervisibility and transmasc erasure" as if these are some equal but opposite forces, but this doesn't account for how transfem hypervisibility is a form of erasure all of its own.

when news panels have debates on trans women's inclusion in sports or bathrooms or society as a whole with no trans women present, that is erasure.

when cis men are hired to play trans women, that is erasure.

when every "family friendly" movie or sitcom you watch growing up has a hateful joke at trans women's expense, from Friends to fucking Shrek, that is erasure.

when the trans panel or trans anthology doesnt feature a single trans woman, that is erasure.

when people justify our exclusion because "trans women are already talked about enough, when is it our turn?" that is erasure.

erasure is not only "not being talked about." erasure is also being talked over, excluded from discussions about your own lived experience. when you meet someone who has never heard of someome like you, you get to introduce yourself, you have influence over how they see people like you. when you meet someone who has heard all about you, but never from anyone like you, when they only know you from mean spirited jokes, from porn, from politicians calling you a pedophile, well, the trans violence statistics speak for themselves.

funny how sexist men who beleive in separate but equal gender essentialism are always like 'its not bad that women and men are different :)) women aren't lesser :)) theyre better with children and emotions and social stuff :))'. they never say shit like 'women are more likely to get a college degree, women are just more intelligent than men and that's okay :))))))))))'

I actually think is okay for lesbians and gay men to have “exceptions” when it comes to their sexuality without having to redefine themselves with a label that doesn’t fit them. A lesbian choosing to stay with their newly trans man partner doesn’t mean they have to call themselves bisexual now when they aren’t, they loved this person before and they love them now and can respect their gender but still not attracted to any other men. Same for gay men who stay with their newly trans women partners. And of course this is predicated on the assumption that all partners involved are okay with the words used! If they don’t feel invalidated and they feel respected that’s all that matters. And gender is complicated, a lesbian can love a masculine nonbinary person and still be a lesbian because their partner isn’t a man. Not to mention genderfluidity. And I think it’s okay for someone to describe their own experience as gay with an exception.

People on this website are committed to misusing and redefining useful words in ways that make them useless as if it's a super great and radical act.

"Kink can be non-sexual if you just [describes participating in a hobby]" "afab transfems are real because transfem is just when you are trans and fem" "chaser is when you think trans women are hot and you really like them". Why even fucking use these words if you don't care about what they mean? Why use them? Do you even even think about what the point of any of these words is or do you only care about your dick measuring contest for who's more punk and who's got the most esoteric definitions?

Your honor, manslaughter actually doesn't have to be about accidentally killing someone. It can be about giving someone a bouquet of flowers.

just a psa

if ur a stud or a butch you don't HAVE to be able to pick up your girlfriend. It's not a requirement. Nor is it a competition.

if you can and you want to be able to lift your gf then that's perfectly fine.

but for those who can't or just don't work out or just choose not to, that's fine too.

being strong isn't a requirement for being a masculine lesbian.

sure it's impressive, hot even, but again it's not a big deal to most. Hell most straight women don't necessarily expect their men to be strong or able to lift them.

making this statement bc, on tik tok, a stud went viral for not being able to lift up her girlfriend (who looked to be about 100-120lbs) and she had to have a man do it for her.

and there is a big post going around saying "why women need men"

women don't need men.

most men are not even strong either and most women even with minimal athletic capability can lift a woman of this size. and I'm glad that there are many lesbians on TikTok there to prove it.

but again, don't feel bad if you can't do it either. 🤍

You can separate the art from the artist, but you cannot separate the artist from that art's profit.

you should be able to go to a hospital and go hello I am an addict and they give you your substance of choice for the day .

Every post about intrusive thoughts needs at least 10 people per day to reblog it derailing and saying "it's ok to have intrusive thoughts so long as they're not about violence or sexual acts but instead perhaps a witch trying to solve the disappearance of her neighbour's cat in a small village in the Alps..."

you don't "hate kids," you hate being forced into a caretaking role.

you don't "hate kids," you hate censorship passed off as family values.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the constrictiveness of the nuclear family.

you don't "hate kids," you're just not used to occupying fully age diverse spaces so you're not used to the noise or the many different kinds of needs.

you don't "hate kids," most public spaces just aren't built for kids, and so the few kids you see are always uncomfortable and distressed.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the intense social rules assigned to kids and anyone who interacts with kids.

You don't "hate kids," you hate how society reproduces its most restrictive elements and how kids are powerless to resist it.

So within two days of each other, Fox News writes an article comparing aromanticism and asexuality to pedophilia, and then Matt Walsh releases a video saying asexuality is a mental illness and asexuals are tricking teenagers into having depression.

Not sure what’s going on right now over in Conservative World, but it’s a hell of wild U-turn for them to suddenly switch from “Oh no! The left is sexualizing our children!” to “Oh no! The left is asexualizing our children!”

Mad about politics again

Miss Piggy's response to misogyny and fatphobia is physical violence and I think we should all take something from that

it’s kind of crazy how here on the so-called feminism website you literally can’t say something as simple as “dude is an inherently gendered term” without literally dozens upon dozens of people who consider themselves feminists showing up to say “idk i use it in a gender neutral way”. like idk how to tell you this but the fact that masculine words are considered default/neutral and feminine words are not is, in fact a reflection, of a patriarchal society.

Hey, here’s a concept. What if we stopped saying “but autistic people CAN do all those things” (erasing high support needs) and instead started saying “not being able to do those things doesn’t impact someone’s value as a person nor does it make it okay to commit eugenics”.

Yes. Some autistic people can pay taxes, write poems, live an independent life, etc.

But some of us cant. Some of us, like me, cant live independently. Cant be without someone. Cant be a member of society without extreme accommodation and help.

I need help in everyday life. I have a caregiver for gods sake. I need help in everyday life and will never be independent. It’s frustrating to constantly get comments about how autistic people can live independently. Cause some of us cant, and that needs to be talked about. I get sores from not showering enough. I get sores from my wheelchair. I have cavities from not brushing my teeth enough.

Life with higher support needs shouldn’t be something that is ignored and not talked about. My caregiver helps me live life as independently as possible. Independence looks different for everyone. Our caregivers are an extension of ourselves. Our caregivers are important and should be recognized. Stop throwing us under the bus for your “salvation”

We are all at risk, and throwing higher support needs people under the bus will not benefit you. You’re ruining years of advocacy by your words and videos.

-siiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh-

Does a trans woman who transitions and goes completely stealth, like SRS, voice training, cis-passing, updated legal docs, etc. become tme? If she can be inspected nude and people would assume she was cis then would transmisogyny even be able to be applied to her? Genuine question.

that used to be like the way trans women were expected to live and the risk of being exposed as transfem still hung over them so like. yes.

Performative feminism is a most annoying aspect of our times.

Such a great, revealing peek into the transmisogynist’s mindset

I mean I know a certain level of projection on fictional characters and situations is inevitable and even healthy, but sometimes you got to step back into the real world to remind yourself that Character X is not your shitty parent/abusive ex/asshole boss/bully from high school, and that people who like Character X are not personally victimizing you.

there’s this certain type of person who learns a bunch of leftist “slogans” but doesn’t bother to actually understand them or learn the context around them so they just blindly apply the statement to a bunch of stuff it doesn’t apply to

this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.

some low support needs level 1 autistic will throw higher support needs level 2&3 or nonverbal nonspeaking autistic under bus if in their mind there even 0.01% chance they maybe perhaps get rights. or more accurately, get be oppressor class. n it shows