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It's monstrous how much boys and men love tormenting girls and women. The way so many boys and men actually love scaring and upsetting girls and women on purpose because they think it's funny.

I'm thinking specifically about how I have some phobias of bugs, and I specifically have to hide that from men because once they find out they purposely show me the bugs I'm afraid of to torment me because they think it's funny and cute to torment and upset a woman. Like when one of my male co-workers at my old job found out I was arachnophobic after that he made a point of if he found a spider in the store he'd purposely try to shove it in my face because he thought it was funny and cute to scare me and make me upset. I've had multiple instances of grown male co-workers behaving like this but never a grown female co-worker. Sure, I'm sure there's at least a few grown women in the world out there like that, but for the most part this behavior is only seen in small girls but quickly corrected and beat out of her while men are still tormenting women for fun as grown adults.

Or my mother has a pretty bad phobia of frogs, and she told me a story about how when she was a little girl some boys found out, and they specifically made it a point to collect frogs from outside to throw at her. One time they cornered her in the bathroom and threw buckets of frogs at her, she was sobbing and shaking and having a full blown panic attack while they were laughing. It was for no other reason than they thought it was funny to make a girl upset and scared.

And this ties in with how often if a girl or woman asks a boy or man to stop doing something that bothers her or annoys her they double down and start doing the behavior even more just because they want to upset girls and women. Like schoolgirls asking the boy next to her to stop drumming with his pencils because it's distracting her from being able to pay attention to class, how likely is it he'll actually stop vs just doing it even more loudly and frequently just to bother her? If this is a lifelong pattern for girls this makes girls back off and less likely to stand up to boys and men.

If a girl has for years had a pattern of every time she asks the boys in her class to stop drumming with their pencils while she's trying to pay attention or stop saying gross sexual jokes that make her uncomfortable to her during class or stop poking her and every time they just double down and start doing it even more and even louder or harder just to upset her, is she going to keep asking boys to stop doing things that bother her? Is she going to feel comfortable and safe standing up for herself and asserting her boundaries? Or is she going to get quiet and stop speaking up and hope for the love of god they don't notice the annoyance on her face because if they do that's enough just to make them double down and start doing it more to bother her?

I've seen countless examples of men purposely making women so scared or upset or angry that they're in tears for no other reason than fun and entertainment. Boys and men are fucking sadistic demons. And this keeps girls and women in line, keeps girls and women from being able to stand up for ourselves and assert our personal boundaries to boys and men.

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my blood looks more beautiful than yours it's a more luscious red

the fact that even just saying you like jkr gets you forever labeled a bigot but all the ppl who openly supported depp get to quietly withdraw back to normalcy. no one sees an issue with that? especially considering one beat a woman & the other has donated millions to women. with the utmost sincerity, if you genuinely think jkr is some sort of dangerous transphobe I think you’ve got to be one of the dumbest fucking people on the planet. you lack the most basic critical thinking skills and follow along with whatever you’re told like a naive child. I mean it’s been years now and it genuinely baffles me. not once has she said anything bigoted. no one can even back their arguments of this claim. it’s just been decided and so the crowd follows.

"Women don't own womanhood" oh then who tf does? The 30-something year old man who decided he wanted to be a woman and knows nothing about what it's like to grow up silenced, marginalized, discriminated, harassed, treated like a sexual object, only validated based on unrealistic and even deadly beauty standards? Who must now be applauded for saying "I feel female!" Who must now, despite looking and sounding and behaving like a man, even before properly transitioning, be allowed into women-exclusive spaces which were only created to protect women from predators?

Right. Of course. (sarcasm, for those of you who can't understand the connotation)

All your progressive movements are crap; you guys have no idea what you're talking about, what you're saying, what messages you're actually conveying.

Woke culture is a dangerous, disgusting thing. Keep it out of feminism, we're actually fighting for our lives here.

The way male game developers always make female characters walk is ridiculous. They'll be like "look at the graphics and light and ambiance we've worked so hard to make it look realistic" and then the female character starts walking in the most absurd way swaying her hips like she's on a strip club's podium with her back arched. And in the comments women have to explain that it's not how women walk, sir, please stop. Even in cutesy innocent games it comes up. Embarrassing.

I dare anyone to tell me TRAs aren’t dangerous. That isn’t freedom of speech, that’s an incitement of violence. This is a psychopathic cult. Examples of them lacking empathy include: harassing and doxing women who defend our sex-based rights, posting shit like that on Twitter, and turning on someone the moment he or she becomes a detransitioner. TRAs are unstable, dangerous people.

sometimes being a woman comes with an expectation of being all things at one time, all the time. sometimes being a woman reminds me of the desert, where everything is beautiful but also sharp; everything’s learned to grow defenses. while I was being raised up as a young girl I was taught to brush my hair & make sure I was presentable before I left the house, but also to watch my back & walk tall & strong against those who’d try to fuck with me. I still carry that today - I’ll have a dress & lipstick on but also a knife strapped in my boot. I like the way the steel feels against my ankle.

CHELSEA WOLFE ON WHAT BEING A WOMAN MEANS TO HER

Thank you for correcting me! I must need to do more research. I have been doing research on her, but I've misinterpreted the information, I guess. A lot of people referred to her as a she and have said she was a trans woman a lot of the time, so I misinterpreted it.

I shouldn't have brought someone I still need to do more research on into the conversation. I'm really sorry for that!

Instead of citing Marsha, I will cite myself. I am a trans male, so while I cannot speak for trans women, I can speak for the trans cause.

My argument with you & people with your stance is that you seem to try to assert some expertise over people with our lives, and it's. . . well, really rather arrogant. You can list everything you've got to back your opinions up but it won't change the fact that it's an opinion.

The facts you get are from people who know just as much about us as you do and people who do not make up the whole of us. An experience, however different it may be from mine, is still valid and the person with it is allowed to open up about it. It's beyond horrible that some of the trans community demonstrates the same prejudice that they claim to hate.

But again, they do not describe all of us.

There are those of us who don't advocate for hate or disgusting behavior. Many, actually. There are also those of us who are the way we are for a reason.

Whatever it is in your mind does not matter because you are not trans—even if you supported the trans community, you would not fully understand it.

Is that an excuse for people to say whatever nonsense they feel like?

No; but you can become blinded to any positivity we promote if you become accustomed to seeking the negativity. You don't just call out negativity in the trans community. You only call out the negativity and make negative judgements based off of your negative opinions. Based off of what you believe, what you have seen.

I was dumb to argue when I mentioned Marsha P. Johnson. I need to do more research next time I cite someone, even if I think I know what I'm talking about. Mind you, I'm sure, to you, it must sound completely ironic.

But my stance is—stop acting like you understand exactly what is going on in our minds, nor anything of what we may think because you have no firsthand experience to talk about who we are nor the open–mindedness to talk of us impartially.

You can make a list of the bad trans people, but there will always be good trans people, there will always be more to our community than you would be willing to see.

Now, I'm not acting as though I'm keeping some sort of secret from you because I don't have anything to back it up. I can speak, as a good ( I do try my best to be good to people, I'm sorry I was so rude to you to begin with ), decently–knowledgeable trans person, who knows good, knowledgeable trans people.

You are judging lives you would not understand enough to arrive at enough logic to label, debunk, or explain them.

You're talking about an experience I could never understand, but for years I've identified myself as trans (or at least gender fluid), when I was 14/16, and used he/him pronouns. I wanted to be a man, I covered my breasted and wore masculine clothes. I tried even to walk like a man. It felt right to me to use different pronouns but then I changed, because that's what happens during adolescence. If you look up (I studied psychology and pedagogy at school) adolescence is a period of changes, and a 17 years old teenager is different than his/her 16 years old self. Just by one year everything changes. And that's what happened to me, I grew up and I changed.

I know a lot of trans people, one is even a close friend of mine, and in my city there was a big friends group with all trans people. After a year or two (they were like 13-16 years old) a few of them call themselves "trans".

And I want to be clear, I respect people because it's not in my character to hate, but when I say "a trans woman is not a woman" and other people say "no, it's a real woman", it makes me angry. Because we're talking of common biology that is taught in schools.

For example: Blair White is a person I respect. She (wow I'm respecting her pronouns) is a transwoman and knows she will never be a real woman, just because of biology. In fact, Blair stated that doesn't want any bottom surgery because it has many risks. And from what I've learned, that's true. But I respect Blair, a transwoman, that says what is true. Because not a lot of people (like politicians) have the guts to say that a transwoman is just a man. And I know not all trans people are bad people, but why the majority of them hate detransitioners? Why the majority of them doesn't care about women voices, about women being not comfortable sharing a locker room or a bathroom with a biological male?

So, why transwomen talk about being women even if they're men?? They shouldn't talk about it, even calling themselves woman, because they don't know what it's like to be a woman. They never grew up being one.

Us radfems rely a lot on biology when we talk about transpeople, because we can't ignore it, especially when men play sports against women and they win, or when men are being put in prisons with woman and rape them, or when in other occasions society tries to be inclusive and put men in women category and gives all the recognition to men. But that doesn't happen with men, because I never saw a transman win against a biological man in a race or in a box fight. Transpeople should have, at this point, their own categories because it's unfair for woman to compete against man that are biologically stronger than us.

(It's good to have those interactions, sorry for eventual mistakes but English is my second language and sometimes I might sound angry but that's how I normally talk)

Radical feminists should not be allowed to post about Marsha P. Johnson. She did not wear being a woman like a costume; she embraced it with her life. She gave to the community until she died. If you can look at Marsha P. Johnson and not take trans people seriously, you don't have the right to talk about us like a serious issue you know about. You wouldn't know a thing.

Why should we not talk about it? This way no one could talk about any topic, isn't it right? Just simple logic. If you look up, because there're plenty of evidence, Marsha P. Johnson was a drag queen, so a MAN that dress as a woman for entertainment. He never claimed to be a woman because he identified himself as gay, so a man attracted to other men. Just a simple research on internet and you can find anything you want :)

Us radfems do plenty of researches, but trans people never try to find (they just ignore) the real definition of woman.

Giulia Tofana was an Italian professional poisoner. She sold a poison called Aqua Tofana (supposedly invented by Thofania di Adamo, who may have been Giulia's mother) to women who wanted to murder their husbands.

ppl really r like “how dare you place misogyny on the same level as *ACTUAL BIGOTRY* like idk where people get the idea that it’s like totally unreasonable to compare misogyny to racism or homophobia or to think misogyny is a serious issue

I love how feminism changed my perspective about everything in life. This is why women are taught that feminism isn't good for them; it opens our eyes and shows us the world's true colours. "If you want to get married or you don't want trouble in life, avoid feminism", they say, but it's for them. They know how strong the power women could hold against men and their sick rules.

A working tactic of the patriarchy is convincing women that liberation is something for 'other' women. No you're already free, feminism is for the women in the worst of the worst, don't pay attention to it. No the women in feminism are working with the devil, they're destined to hell unlike you, don't pay attention to it. No feminism is for ugly exclusionary lesbians, nobody likes them, but you're cool right? Gang up against them with me.

More shows should be like AMC’s “The Terror”. “Oh, you mean they should be tightly written and make heavy use of metaphor and symbolic imagery to communicate truths about complicated characters in high-stakes situations?” No. I mean more shows should strand their main characters in the remote arctic and have them eat each other

A trend I notice with radical feminist writers is how blunt and direct they are, which makes them easy to read. Valerie Solanas, Andrea Dworkin, Gail Dines--all of them cut straight to the point. Meanwhile, "queer theory" authors like Judith Butler and Michel Foucault are famously dense, obscure, and no one can ever agree on what their point is.

I see people talk about how there's an anti-intellectual backlash happening on the Left, but I think it's worse than that--it's not just that people are discrediting academics and research, they're discrediting common sense. It's common sense to say that a man who orgasms to the thought of women in pain is a misogynist. It's common sense to say that sex that is meant to hurt and degrade someone is not good sex. It's common sense to say that a man is not a woman.

And I think that's why radical feminist authors come across as blunt speakers--because they aren't intellectualizing the obvious, they're stating it. Meanwhile, the work of Butler and Foucault obscures reality as much as possible (oh sorry-- "problematizes" reality as much as possible).

I wish the people who accuse radical feminists of having dog whistles would actually read radical feminist literature and see how blunt the writing is--absolutely nothing has a double meaning or an implied meaning. Everything is direct.

Happiness Will Come To You.

genderists look at the very few gnc women that girls have to look up to–they look at mulan, joan of arc, arya stark, anne lister, mary ann talbot–women who either pretend to be men for their safety (most of the time so that they can marry women, or go on expeditions, or enter into war or academia) or simply wear pants—and say ‘well actually, they want to be men’–>‘actually, they’re trans’ –> ‘actually, they’re men.’

it does not matter your intention, your reason for saying that, it matters the implication. you teach girls that no, you can’t actually be this, not unless you become a man first. 

and they look at gnc men like marquis de lafayette and marsha p. johnson and say, ‘well, actually, they’re women, see? because they’re wearing women’s clothes’. what do you think that teaches girls about what women are? woman is not a costume. man is not marriage with a woman. you’re just misogynistic and homophobic.

Queen just accidentally implied that trans women are straight men pretending to be lesbians lmao

I love the malding that ensues when a woman mimics transbian behavior

“why do you hate men?”

do i? do i hate men? i don’t think so.

hatred is rape. hatred is femicide. hatred is the fact that women are most likely to be murdered by their boyfriend or husband. hatred is nailing dead rats to female safe spaces. hatred is making majority of women afraid of what could happen to them if they go outside at night. hatred is intentionally invoking fear in women just because you can. hatred is female genital mutilation. hatred is the husband stitch. hatred is getting off on women’s abuse, suffering, and degradation. hatred is objectification. hatred is dehumanization. hatred is sex trafficking. hatred is the buying and selling of female bodies as if they’re an object. hatred is being disgusted by women’s natural bodies. hatred is expecting women to shave off every inch of their body hair and cover their faces so they live up to your expectations and ridiculing them if they don’t. hatred is making women ashamed of their natural bodies.

if you want to call my anger and frustration at men’s behavior “hatred”, than my hatred is reactionary. men hated us first. misogyny and misandry are not the same.

“but there’s beauty standards for men too! men are punished for not being masculine!” yeah but men’s natural bodies are considered masculine. and women’s natural bodies are considered masculine. not shaving on a man is masculine, and not shaving on a woman is also masculine. do you see the difference? men are discouraged from performing extra beauty rituals whereas women are discouraged from being their natural selves. women are expected to perform rituals to comply with societal gender roles whereas men are expected to be their natural selves.

Magnolia (1999) dir. Paul Thomas Anderson

communication issues

promising young woman by susanne scanlon / witches by holly warburton / uncomfortably numb by american football & hayley williams / eternal sunshine of the spotless mind by ratsandlilies on twitter

This was not the movie I thought it was going to be, and that was a good thing, until a certain point. The ending left me feeling pissed off, and the more I think about it, the more tragic, rather than triumphant, the ending is.

Spoilers under the cut.

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