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The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* These DO NOT apply to every situation! These are just general rules UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON, then do what they ask

Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it' (again..not. universal.)

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

MY BABY

Ah yes, the 3 genders. Male, female, and “what the fuck are you, a cop?”

Trans people who have changed your name...

(whether legally or otherwise)

If multiple reasons, select the one that was foremost. For example, my name (Anastasia):

I chose first and foremost for the meaning, and will vote for that here

I chose for the aesthetics, as a secondary but also critical factor (I would not have chosen a name I didn't like aesthetically, no matter how appropriate the meaning)

I also chose for the "other" reason: because it's pronounceable in all the languages I speak and doesn't violate their orthography rules so doesn't require modification from language to language

(My name's short form, "Nastja", I chose as a matter of aesthetics, and because I have reasons to reject each of the other common shortenings of my name; Ana gets mistaken for a different name with a different meaning, and I don't like Stacey etc aesthetically. And now, the name Nastja has extra meaning to me, because by coincidence I ended up with a girlfriend with the same name, who since died, so now I have the honour of wearing it for both of us)

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For your future information, here are medical innovations younger than both the basics of HRT for trans ppl & the first gender-reassignment/gender-confirmation surgery. I put together this incomplete list earlier today bc I was bored:

all organ transplants

most modern vaccines, including the polio vaccine

the gluten-free diet as a treatment for celiac disease

synthetic insulin

oral contraceptives

MRIs

the concept of a "blood bank"

pacemakers

hydrocortisone

ibuprofen

diazepam

artificial hearts

sumatriptan

naproxen (Aleve)

tramodol

dialysis

ECT

ondansetron (Zofran)

chemotherapy

IVF

CPR

CT scans

transdermal patches

liposuction

intravascular stents

penicillin

In case you run into someone talking about how 'experimental' HRT is.

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