We Are Not In High School Anymore!
We are not in high school anymore!
High school is one of the greatest milestone of our teen life. We experience what life is fully made of; to make decisions that resulted in serious consequences, to take risks, to explore our boundaries, to find our weaknesses and strengths, to fall in love, to lie and keep secrets, and to find ourselves in the midst of it all. But most of all, in high school, we make life long friends... or do we?
Its been four years since I finished high school, I can honestly say that I have definitely made a few life long friends, some I even met from primary school. The purpose of this post is look into a bigger picture of letting go and moving on, and I'll be using my high school group or 'possie' as a metaphor.
Having a big group of friends is awesome, you look fearful and the sense of belonging is something not many get. To keep the group alive, there would be on the regular occasion a group get together. The first year or two was really good and fun, the momentum of catching up and seeing everyone again was ecstatic. But four year later and the spirit is kind of gone, and I think that it's totally fine. We are now young adults, we have a different pathway and they may not meet. We enjoy activities others may disagree with. We have individual beliefs values that we live by and others find difficult to understand. We are not in high school anymore, we are grown up and have our own life journey. When we have these catch ups, the group seems divided and the vibe is just uncomfortably awkward, this is due to past beefs, fragile friendships, personality clashes and ultimately a different way of life.
Personally, I think moving on and leaving behind a stage of our life is fine. Acknowledging and being thankful for the inevitable is all that can be done now. It's not forgetting because that is impossible, its about accepting that sometimes things wont always be the same. Time changes people and we just have to deal with it, just like the transition after high school.
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Single Fin and Badang Badand Beach - Uluwatu
We came here with no plans aside from accommodation and notknowing much about the landscape/landmark of Bali. Using instagram as a guide to see the pretty places, we get a taxi (he ripped us off $20 for a 10 mins ride) to Single Fin and the surroundings. We were greeted by the locals with many endless smiles, some spoke to us wanting to know what nationality we were and overall they were just such beautiful and genuine people. We basically spent our whole day around Single Fin, enjoying the ocean view and surfers catching big waves around the cliff. We than headed to Badung Badung beach, which was a calmer beach/ocean with many market stalls full of beautiful and vibrant coloured materials.
Amazing
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Oh Miranda stop it
Hotel: Obviously each to their own will find a shelter that best suits them. These are the places I stayed at and I’m glad I stayed at these places as I felt like a princess.
The Aston - Uluwatu
Monday morning we get up and enjoy our buffet breakfast at the Aston. This hotel is new and has only been around for two years. It’s quiet luxurious and modern. Great view of the coastline and in the far distance is Kuta and Seminyak. For two nights here, the Ashton is very affordable ($130 per night); which includes breakfast and endless Wi-Fi. If you want to stay away from the big touristy location, Uluwatu is a great escape. Depending on your bargaining skills (mine sucks) you can go to other places quiet cheap as the location is still quiet central still.
Villa Kalisat - Ubud
The things I would do to back to Villa Kalisat!! This location is magical. Entwine with the mountain and palm tree jungle, this villa is on the edge giving you a 180degree view of what is in front you. The Villa itself makes you feel like your in a Buddist dream and definitely feels like one of them postcard advertisement you see about the Bali villas. At also an affordable price ($150 per night), which includes breakfast and Wi-Fi, you get to relax and embrace the beautiful surrounding. At the bottom of the mountain is a river, if you ask the workers nicely, someone will take you to the bottom and you can enjoy a swim looking up into the mountains. Feeling nostalgic thinking back to it.
Astanya Kunti – Seminyak
This apartment was average. It did meet our requirement, as we wanted a kitchen to cook our own meal. The four of us had this massive two-room apartment to ourself. Our room was a fair bit away from the pool so we spent most our time locked in our room under the air conditioner, as we couldn’t be bothered with the 3 mins trip to the pool. For four people, this accommodation was really affordable, highly recommended it for families with little kids or groups.
Flying over South Australia and the Northern Territory was so hypnotic. My fear for flying was excluded from my thought as I starred intently outside the window.
Soul mate
And I realize that no matter where I am, whether in a little room full of thought, or in this endless universe of stars and mountains, it’s all in my mind.
Lonesome Traveler (Jack Kerouac)
Love and stress: Multitasking doesn't come easy, unless you're not aware that you are multitasking. I have found myself in a predicament that involves being childishly in love and staying focused to get through the last few weeks of university. I'm not here complaining about life, but to talk about how I feel and how I am managing this stage of my life. This stage of my life is actually the topping to a bitter dessert. I've been studying ongoing and 5 years later, I am literally coming to the end of my schooling years. In about two weeks I am officially done and can start looking for a proper job. But lately I know that I have been slacking with prioritizing uni with love. When you're in love, all that you want to do is spend every breathing second with your companion. No matter the hours and hours spent together, it just isn't enough. I could lay in bed all day without a single thought of having to get my assessments done, I could stare at his face without getting sore from smiling from happiness, I could listen to him talk for hours without being afraid to get sick of his voice. It feels like paradise with every eye contact and I honestly don't think I could ever get sick of studying his expressions. In the other hand, I am quiet aware of the fact that I keep pushing aside work that will determine whether I will walk away as a teacher or not. I am aware that I may be enjoying the love life a little to much. I am aware that all my assesments are piling up, and they need to get done as soon as possible otherwise I will become an owl. I am aware of it all and I am somewhat stressed about it, but the advantage for me is that I am quiet a chiller when it comes to meeting deadlines. I find myself work better under pressure, knowing that I need to get it done. That is how I deal with it. I've gotten through the past 5 years of uni with this attitude and this performance. If I had done it wrong, I wouldn't be here today... So I must be doing it right... In my own way. Loving him has been the best thing that's happened to me since I bought my first ever car, which was a huge step into my pathway to becoming an independent young woman. I know that my work needs to be done, I am quiet informed of it, but being in love is just so much more fun. I will get my work done eventually.
