He Looks So Happy Here :) I Wish He Could Have Always Been This Happy..

so i just woke up to the news of goo hara’s passing. she was a south korean singer and actress, only twenty-eight years old. this is coming right after hearing about sulli’s passing just about a month ago. in 2017, the lead singer of shinee, kim jonghyun passed away at just twenty-seven years old, followed by actor jeon tae soo’s suicide in 2018, actress jeon mi seon in 2019. this problem isn’t just found in south korea, but i’m writing after seeing the news this morning.

there have been more than 200 celebrity suicides in the 21st century. the afsp published that in 2017, 47,173 americans died by suicide. there were about 1,400,000 attempts. the people who are dying are not just “our family, friends, teachers, etc.” they’re other human beings who genuinely should have every chance at living life they deserve. there is something inherently wrong in social society that prevents people from being able to live. there are some who wish to commit suicide but cannot because they are more afraid of their children’s/family’s/friend’s lives than their own lives. this is another extremely big and undressed problem, because there are so so many people suffering from depression. 

we can’t just blame it on cyber bullying and call it a day. it’s a much more serious problem than that, because not everyone dies from being cyber bullied. not everyone is dying from being bullied. some people are dying because of economic reasons, family problems, traumatic events, you name it. we need to be helping each and everyone in some possible way, whether it be by just trying to extend a hand to those who need it, or focusing on bettering mental health care.

there needs to be something done, and me being frustrated and heartbroken after hearing about suicides won’t be enough. awareness is not just enough, but it’s an amazing step towards a goal. we need to start taking some sort of action, and fast, because suicide is the tenth most common way people die in america. (after a list of 1-9 being health-related death, like cancer, diabetes, etc that are also very important)

if you know someone needs help, be compassionate, empathetic, and an active listener. provide them with different solutions, like therapy or just being able to sit and talk with them. serious problems like these take time, and unfortunately, it doesn’t seem as though people are taking the time to actively move towards a society that is more accepting, aware, and inclusive of people who are struggling within.

we need to care, and we need to start caring faster if there is meant to be a way to help those who need help. please read this 

 this is the national suicide prevention lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255

I have no followers atm and am barely active, but I am coming here to say that this blog supports Heechul & Momo. In this house, we stan and support idols being in love and being able to date safely and happily without kpop fandom trying to tear people down.

Heechul is not a creep, not predatory, and the age gap is not anything to be upset about. There are so many couples that have bigger age gaps and people don’t care, but oh no not Heechul and Momo! 

If you paid any kind of attention to him, watched any interviews, or any of the like, you’d be aware of that. And even if somehow it’s all a facade and he’s not the lovable idiot many of us have come to see him as, then if nothing else, you should be trusting Momo to make an educated decision about who she wants to date. She’s an adult. And she has been since her debut.

Let’s support these guys instead of being assholes to each other and making mean, crass comments on social media. So many of ya’ll preach about letting idols date until it’s a couple you don’t like, then it’s suddenly a problem.

In this house, we support Heechul and Momo!

When idols have to hide the hair when they have a comeback.

1,095 Days.

Its been one-thousand and ninety-five days since you’ve gone away. Those three years have been long. So, so long.

We haven’t forgotten you. We never will. Your music plays through the speakers of our cars, your smile is thought of, your humbleness is cherished, your imprint on our lives is well known. You are remembered Jonghyun, not just by your music alone — but by the four men who persevere in your memory. You are still loved, thought of, embraced, and missed. You are that beacon of light, of hope, of love.

Your battle was hard, and you did all you could do, but sometimes, that weight gets too heavy even for the strongest of people. There is nothing wrong in accepting that. You’re simply one person, and it’s not your fault.

The day you left us, the moon flickered out for just the briefest of moments. Was it welcoming you into its embrace? You are the moon. You are the stars. You are everywhere. You are a gift in words, in lyrics, and I just want you to know that we’ve heard them. Read them. We do it so we can sing them back at you. Write us something new if you get the chance, and we’ll listen to it in the wind. We’ll listen, because we weren’t listening hard enough before.

We love you. We miss you. 수고했어요.

Ok, I barely dip into the Twice and Suju fandoms

But oh. My. Word.

You are all accusing Heechul of being a predator??? For dating another consenting adult???

YOU. DON'T. KNOW. THESE. IDOLS. PERSONALLY.

By calling Heechul whatever disgusting names the internet loves to use, you are questioning Momo. You all claim to love Momo and want to protect her when you automatically assume that she can't possibly be dating Heechul because, I don't know, HE'S A GOOD GUY who is famous for how respectful he is to women?! And you automatically assume a bunch of sexual stuff and not that he's dating her because he LIKES HER? You are questioning Momo's ability to think for herself and be a grown working woman making adult choices.

I have seen countless young girls go full on crazy over male idols. I've heard 14-year-old girls say sexual things about idols who are almost 30. Several of the people crying over Heechul and Momo have said these things themselves. Also apparently Heechul admired her "when she was a teenager" - you're leaving out the fact that she was 19 - AN ADULT.

And to all the people sobbing about how they're both actually gay and it's a coverup, you disgust me. You actually disgust me. These idols sexualities are none of your business. Oh, and throwing shade to someone because they're not the sexuality you wanted them to be? That's not only a million times creepier than anything you claim Heechul has done, but is hateful and contradicts everything you supposedly stand for - which is supporting people no matter their sexuality.

Momo and Heechul are both adults with their own private lives who don't owe these bratty, selfish, so-called "fans" anything. I've seen people giving Heechul DEATH THREATS. Which is in fact illegal (their relationship is not).

In short - Heechul and Momo deserve all the love and happiness in the world. You're allowed to be uncomfortable as I know many people have had bad age gap experiences but please PLEASE for once just realize that not everyone has the same experiences as you.

And to everyone accusing Heechul of horrible things and to everyone who's so concerned for Momo's safety - I sincerely hope you can get a life and stop infantilizing women as well as stop assuming the worst about a man simply because he is a man. Oh wait - this is your life. I don't hate any of you - I'm sorry for you. You must feel so bad about yourself that you feel the need to try to ruin innocent people's lives that you have no involvement in because for some reason you've decided it's bad.

Stop treating idols like they're fictional characters who must adhere to your headcanons and ships. Stop infantilizing grown adult women making their own life choices. Stop threatening men on completely baseless accusations. This is the most disgusting thing I've seen in a long time. I sincerely hope you all learn from this and stop acting like the terrifying cross between Puritans and Radfems that the internet seems to breed so prolifically.

Dear Jonghyun, Today it’s been 3 years without your beautiful smile, your beautiful voice, your beautiful words, the beautiful you. I miss you everyday and I will cherish all the beautiful words, music and memories you gave us forever. You did well, you worked the hardest ♡

Yixing in NYC

I'm soooo excited to Yixing tomorrow. Finally!!! If you are going, let's friends. If you aren't, we can still be friends.

There was no in-between for him. (insp)

CHEN IS GETTING MERRIED !!

"Hello, this is Chen.

I have something to say to my fans, so I wrote this letter. I don’t know how to start, so I am very nervous. I wanted to be the first one to tell my fans who I love so much, so I am leaving this post even with my lacking sentences.

I have a girlfriend who I want to be with for the rest of my life.

I was worried and concerned with what would happen with my decision, but I wanted to let everyone know early so my members, the company, my agency, and especially my fans who are proud of me wouldn’t be surprised by the sudden news, so I talked it out with my agency and the members.

During that time a blessing came to me. I was shocked because I wasn’t able to take part in the plans that I had made with the members and the company. But, this blessing gave me the strength and courage. I thought about how and when I should reveal the news but I didn’t want to wait any longer so I am carefully revealing it to you all now.

I am grateful to my members for genuinely supporting and congratulating me and to our fans for always showering us with insurmountable love. I will always be grateful for all of you and will continue to do my best in the position I am in.

Thank you always." - Chen

Just looking at you smiling, just watching over you makes me feel at peace