Like the writing was really good in this game and it’s so frustrating watching people be like “I didn’t get special attention from a character because it’s not a perma horny game so writing baaaaaaaaaaad”
Characters are allowed to be characters. To be fleshed out and have fulfilling relationships outside 'you' the player. I know, we love our blorbos and whatever...but it's not that deep.
Maybe Rook is too distracted to actually put real bonding time into their romantic relationships. Maybe Rook being a boss is an intimidating power dynamic that makes their partner hesitant. Maybe connections are stronger with other people.
I'll just say, the way I connected with my first ever GF, is very different from how I interact and connect with my partner NOW. What is okay with one partner, doesn't mean it'll be okay with the next. The jokes, physical connections, and love languages all have grown and shifted. That's how relationships work.
Some of ya'll really need to understand relationships are complex. And that BioWare doesn't have it out personally for you because so and so companion didn't fall to their knees in co-dependant agony worshiping your Rook.