Npd Safe - Blog Posts
little photo dump, because i genuinely look so beautiful aaa
@moonkissedlily love u bby <3
*trying to get help with something*
"weak, worthless, useless bitch"
*splits on myself*
Can someone please send me resources or links or anything at all to send it to people to prove that we should stop using "narcissistic abuse" as a term?????
NPD adjacent flag! This flag is left vague so one can use it whether they are sure they have NPD, or just display traits, or are questioning. This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing their neurodivergencies in mind and is NOT to be used by transid/transx supporters.
[ID: Three images.
The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. In the center of the flag is the outline of the narcissus flower colored red black. End First ID.
The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark purple. End second ID.
The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark indigo purple. End third ID.]
[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]
Flags by me, with sampled colors from NPD flags created by @/npdsafe and @/acidkeylime. Requested by @loveasappho. Tagging @npd-archive.
Narcissus outline symbol from the noun project. Link: https://thenounproject.com/icon/narcissus-1276973/
Flags without symbols below the cut:
[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]
[ID: Three images.
The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. End first ID.
The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. End second ID.
The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. End third ID.]
NPD flag colorpicked from Mars!
[ID: A flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark orange brown, dark plum red, chestnut red orange, sunny yellow orange, white, and misty blue grey. End ID.]
Flag by me, based on the flag by npd-safe. Tagging @npd-archive.
NPD + ASPD adjacent flag!
[plain text: NPD + ASPD adjacent flag! /end plain text]
After months, I am still on the rocks as to whether I have ASPD, or just display traits. Maybe there are some things we are never meant to know /ref /lyr /lh
So, I made this flag for NPD + ASPD and adjacent! It is general so it can be used by anyone who has either traits of NPD or ASPD or the disorders themselves.
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark blood red, berry red, pale brick red, orange, pale yellow, pale grey blue, lavender purple, dark blue, and purple brown. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol. The symbol consists of an outline of a narcissus flower with the upside down scale ASPD symbol inside. The second image is a flag identical to the first, but lacking the symbol. End ID.]
Flag by me. Colors sampled from the NPD and ASPD awareness flags. Narcissus outline taken from The Noun Project.
Tagging @mad-pride.
Below the cut, I have included the transparent symbol, as well as CMYK versions of the flags! (If you(&) don't know what that means, it's basically the version of the flag in the colors that a printer would output.)
[ID: A white symbol. The symbol consists of an outline of a narcissus flower with the upside down scale ASPD symbol inside. End ID.]
[ID: Two images. Each image corresponds to one of the flags above. They are extremely similar, but there are slight differences in hue and saturation of some of the colors. End ID.]
Turian Variant Flags!
[plain text: Turian Variant Flags! /end plain text]
In order: Apothane, Narcilix, Narcilix (alt), Neoboy, NPD, Acefog, Arofog.
Flags by me. Colors sampled from @noxwithoutstars' acefog and arofog flags.
IDs below cut:
In order:
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick orange, off white, grape purple, dark grape purple, and dark magenta. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark berry red, icy blue, sky blue, desaturated purple, and black. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright pink red, pastel yellow, sky blue, dark blue, and dark purple. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, white, icy blue, ocean blue, and navy blue. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick red, pale yellow, lavender blue, dark lavender blue, and dark purple. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, white, bright green, leaf green, and dark green. End ID.]
[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are olive green, pale yellow, bright orange, berry pink, and dark purple. End ID.]
Narc Varygirl (link) and Varyboy (link) flags, for Varygirls and Varyboys with NPD!
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pastel blue, icy blue, ocean blue, grey purple, red maroon, red, bright red, pale orange, and pastel yellow. The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pastel yellow, pastel green, pastel blue, lavender blue, dark purple, dark maroon, maroon, red orange, and bright orange. End ID.]
Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid!
Flag by me. Colors sampled from the Varygirl, Varyboy, and NPD awareness flags. Tagging @radiomogai, @npd-archive,and @revenant-coining.
Created an alternate flag for Narcilix (Link) because I wasn't happy with the old one! I wanted to make it more like the Anisolix flag. Feel free to use either one!
[ID: A flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dull yellow, dull orange, red, deep red, black, blue grey, lavender grey, light blue grey, and blue white. End ID.]
Flag by me. Colors inspired by the Anisolix flag and NPD awareness flag. Tagging @npd-archive.
Loser Narc flag, for people with NPD who reclaim the term loser for themselves!
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with seven horizontal stripes. In descending order, there is a thick deep red stripe, a thin brick red stripe, a thin pale orange stripe, a thin pale yellow stripe, a thin lavender blue stripe, a thin purple blue stripe, and a thick dark grey stripe. The second image is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are deep red, brick red, pale orange, pale yellow, lavender blue, purple blue, and dark grey. End ID.]
Exclusive to those with NPD! Researched self diagnosis is valid.
Flag by me. Colors inspired by the NPD awareness flag.
Tagging @losingender and @npd-archive.
Narcithros - a term for when your Nethros (link) identity is influenced by or connected to your NPD!
Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid.
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with seven horizontal stripes. In descending order, there is a thin pale yellow stripe, a thick pale orange stripe, a thick red stripe, a thin dark red stripe, a thick magenta stripe, a thick lavender purple stripe, and a thin pale light blue stripe. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol with a thick black outline. The symbol consists of the outline of the narcissus flower with devil horns and a pointed tail that curves toward the right. The second image is a flag like the first, but it does not have a symbol. End ID.]
Flag by me. Colors sampled from the Nethros flag and npdsafe's NPD flag (link).
Transparent symbol below the cut:
[ID: The narcithros symbol. The symbol is white with a thick black outline. The symbol consists of the outline of the narcissus flower with devil horns and a pointed tail that curves toward the right. End ID.]
Aponarc - a term for when your Apothane (link) identity is somehow influenced by or connected to your NPD!
Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid.
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, dusty lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, dark blue grey, and off black. In the center of the flag, there is a black symbol. The symbol consists of the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. The second image is a flag that is the same as the first one, but there is no symbol. End ID.]
Additional note: not to be confused with Apothenarc (link), a neurogender coined by @a-quilted-milky-way.
Flag made by me, using colors from the Apothane flag and NPDsafe's NPD flag (link). Symbol put together by me using two images from The Noun Project (link).
Tagging @radiomogai.
Flag with white symbol and transparent symbols below the cut:
[ID: a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, dusty lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, dark blue grey, and off black. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol. The symbol consists of the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. End ID.]
[ID: Two images. Both images are the aponarc symbol: the outline of the narcissus flower with a spiral inside. The first image is in black and the second image is in white. End ID.]
[ID: The aponarc symbol; the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. It is colored in six horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pale lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, and dark blue grey. End ID.]
I actually made the flag colored symbol by accident; I cropped the image using the magic wand tool intending to make a perfectly square image, and accidentally cropped out parts of the flag as well, creating the effect of alpha inheritance. Because of the symbol's position on the flag, it does not have all the colors, but if anyone is interested, I can make a more polished version of the flag colored symbol!
NPD with ASPD traits flag for myself because I didn't vibe with the one I found!
[ID: A flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender blue, stormy blue, dark blue, black, dark red, coral orange, pale orange, and pale yellow. End ID.]
Narcilix - an NPD experience in which your NPD affects how you show affection, social bonds, love, compassion, and/or care in general. It may feel dull, inconsistent, or otherwise different from how those without NPD experience these things, and may cause issues in forming relationships or bonds. May or may not be part of the user's orientation and/or considered aspec.
This was coined to serve as an NPD version of Anisolix (link).
[ID: A flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pale yellow, sunny orange, red orange, brick red, dark purple grey, stormy blue grey, blue grey, light blue grey, and light blue. End ID.]
Flag by me. Colors sampled from the NPD awareness flag by @/npdsafe. Inspired by the anisolix flag.
ADHD, ASPD, Autism and NPD combo flags!
[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, desaturated red, yellow, white, sky blue, bright pink, and grape purple. The second image is a flag with twelve equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, desaturated red, salmon orange, yellow, white, sky blue, lavender purple, dark blue, smoky black, grape purple, light maroon pink, and bright pink. End ID.]
Tagging @mad-pride and @radiomogai
Alternarc - a flag for those whose NPD influences their alterhuman identity, or vice versa
Exclusive to those with NPD (researched self diagnosis is valid) and who are alterhuman! Coined with godkin in mind but any alterhuman with NPD may use!
I coined this because I suspect I may have NPD! I'm going to do more research and I won't use this label for myself yet, and even if I figure out I don't have it, I want all beings with personality disorders to feel safe and welcome on my blog <3
[ID: Two images. The first one is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, bright red, pale yellow, white, blue mint, lavender purple, and dark purple. The second one is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, red brown, bright red, orange, pale yellow, white, blue mint, lavender purple, grape purple, and dark purple. End ID.]
"i love attention so much i might as well be an NPD symptom holder!! ..........wait a minute"
me when co-con alter has the NPD awakening
hey guys, ive been trying to look for information on NPD and ASPD comorbidity but the only things i can find online are ableist "narc abuse" articles LMFAO...
i am questioning if i may have comorbid NPD and ASPD, but im not entirely sure how this comorbidity might look... so i figured id ask and see if anyone with the comorbidity could explain
ARE YOU A FELLOW NARCISSIST LOW ON SUPPLY???
well look no further!
literally just dm me and i will spam you and compliment you and shower you in affection bc you deserve it
i wish all narcissists reading this a very big kiss on the forehead
you are simply the very best ever!!
i love the way you persevere through life even though there may be challenges.
i love you narcissists soo much. you truly are so talented and wonderful. you light up every room you enter and amaze everyone in your life.
you deserve the entire world ❤️
i think it took me so long to realize i have NPD because part of my narcissism is masking my symptoms too be better than people.
even though the fact i’m getting ignored is pissing me off, i’m not gonna lash out- because that’d be immature. and the people ignoring me right now are immature. and i am better than them. so i will be mature about this.
i’m not going to point out i’m better than most people (even though i am) because that’d probably hurt their feelings, and hurting people is below me. i’m better than that.
me, pretty certain i don’t have NPD
my friend hyping me up and saying shit like “it’s because you’re the best!” in casual conversation
i love you narcissists! i hope you all have a wonderful day and continue to kick ass.
there’s nothing ‘wrong’ or ‘evil’ about you for just simply having a disorder.
keep going. love you guys <3
narcissistic traits/npd culture is believing narcissus was based asf
People with Cluster B Disorders. I am sorry about the world. People with Psychotic Disorders. I am sorry about the world. People with OCD. I am sorry about the world.
So many people say they're allies, sometimes even specifically to you, but oftentimes they're lying. They refuse to accommodate on even the most basic level and then treat you like a monster. It's fucked up. It's not your fault. You are not uniquely evil or fucked up. They're just Ableist, and you're just naturally struggling in a world that makes itself completely hostile to you.
NPD Resources Masterlist
The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.
Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.
Diagnostic criteria
NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it
Official diagnostic criteria
An explanation of the diagnostic criteria
Recovery resources FOR the narcissist
NPD recovery resources
How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist
Narcissist supply
What is narc supply?
Things that can give a narcissist supply
NPD stigma
The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them
Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)
A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)
Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive
Debunking common myths on NPD
Common disproven myths about NPD
Miscellaneous
How to support someone with NPD
NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)
Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response
NPD terminology (do's and dont's)
NPD safe blogs
@empath-abuse-awareness
@enigma-in-reality
@loverofmirage
@narcissisticpdcultureis
@nicepersondisorder
@theegosystem
@mischiefmanifold
NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking
Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead
Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever
Happy NPD appreciation day
Positivity for systems with NPD
Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love
NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)
Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD
Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful
Positivity for narcissists who like sex
I love my narcissists
Aromantic narcissists are amazing
Narcissists I love you
Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <;3)
Narcissists deserve to be loved
As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)
Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!
I just got clinically diagnosed with NPD. Everything suddenly feels… ‘right’, like it’s all coming into place as it should! Huh.
“empaths” are THE stupidest fucks on the planet. not to mention the ableism lol
Does "narcissist abuse" exist?
Well, I'll try to think of this as unbiased as possible.
Narcissist and Abuser are not synonymous. Many narcissists make an effort to not harm others and have never been or are currently not abusers.
NPD is a disorder with different presentations and sufferers have differents traits and severities: some narcissists are aggressive and external; some are more internal; some may be concerned with being a good person; some may overcompensate for their narcissism; some may take out the issues of their disorder on others; some may have trouble self-reflecting and hurt others; some may never hurt anyone; some may know how to deal with their traits while others may not.
NPD is a disorder that impacts both the sufferer and the people around them. It is important to talk about the sufferer, but also to acknowledge that it affects others as well. Especially if someone is untreated and unaware of their disorder.
It can cause someone to hurt others if it is left unchecked, if they were taught to hurt others, if they are unaware of their behavior, if they lack self-control, or if they simply have no desire to be a good person.
An abuser with NPD's reasons and ways of abusing someone may be different, just as an abuser with autism's would...and an abuser with depression, an abuser with bipolar, an abuser with schizophrenia, or an abuser who is not mentally ill at all.
I have heard a story about a woman with schizophrenia who was convinced her children were possessed by the devil and tried to attack them. Does this mean everyone with schizophrenia is dangerous? No. Absolutely not. Did her disorder affect the way she treated others in a negative way? Yes, because it presented in this way, and she was completely unaware and untreated. She is a victim in the fact she was dealing with these delusions and this fear, just as her children were victims for having to deal with the way she acted. Again: someone being schizophrenic does not mean they will hurt you. If someone who is schizophrenic tries to hurt you, that isn't representative of everyone with schizophrenia. (Many people with schizophrenia do not try to harm people at all.)
I also heard about the difficulties of a child living with bipolar mother who treated her disorder with alcohol, causing her to accidentally harm her child in many ways. Obviously, her disorder and addiction are relevant in talking about the experience, but we all know people with bipolar disorder are not abusers just because they are bipolar; and addicts are not abusers just because they are addicts.
Abuse can be done on accident, especially if someone was raised around it or thinking it was okay, or if they have a disorder affecting how they see things. In some cases, explaining and trying to help people realize their behavior can work. In others, it won't; some people don't want to listen or get better. If thats the case, thats on them. But no matter what, abuse is a choice. It can be done without awareness; but it is still a choice.
Anyone can be an abuser, and the equation of one disorder with abuse is not only dehumanizing to the people with this disorder, but can actually hurt victims of abusers who aren't narcissists, or victims who are narcissists.
My point is that it can be relevant to say your abuser had NPD. But someone being an abuser doesn't mean they are a narcissist, and the NPD isn't what needs highlighted...its the abuse. Yes, you can say your abuser had NPD, I don't think it's wrong to make a space to discuss this with people who had a similar experience either.
Many people in my family are narcissists/narcissistic, and quite a few of them hurt people or have been abusive. So I won't deny that a lot of narcissists (especially ones who externalize their narcissism and who are completely untreated, also when they refuse to admit they have a problem) treat others badly. I also know some of them don't actually have bad intentions and that others do have (in a way) bad intentions. Some were raised to think it was okay. I also know of narcissists who internalize it, who are aware of their narcissism, who do their best to not hurt others, who are victims themselves.
NPD should be talked about from the perspective of people with NPD, but this doesn't mean people who dealt with abusive people with NPD can't talk about it. As I said, I had no problem with an article about an abusive mother who had bipolar disorder; it was relevant.
A lot of "narcissistic abuse" described is just abuse. A list of abusive behaviors doesn't need to say narcissist at the top. It is completely irrelevant. Say it if it is relevant.
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TLDR; Your abuser being a narcissist can be relevant, and you can talk about it, narcissists can be abusers and their disorder can play a part in it. But not all narcissists are abusers, and "narcissist" is equated with abuser. This is why people do not like the term "narcissistic abuse." It, in a way, equates narcissism with abuse. "Narcissistic abuse" is as real as "autistic abuse" or "bipolar abuse."
Don't use narcissist as a word for abuser. Say it if it's relevant.
I have no problem with a subreddit, therapy group, or community for people who dealt with abusive narcissists, but I want people to not perpetuate a stigma.
I sympathize with those who were abused, but narcissism isn't abuse; abuse is abuse. Narcissism can play a part, but that is not what the abuse is, and that is not THE cause of the abuse.
Abuse is abuse, and anyone can abuse.
hey guys give this post lots of notes and support if you lovee narcs. if you wanna kiss a narc on the face. if you wanna give narcs supply so they do not die. ❤️